Thank you, Doris. I'll be glad to try to address your question.
Disagreement seems to be inevitable in such a forum as this--and disagreement in itself is not bad. It's the extra comments that cause problems and hard feelings.
I couldn't possibly list all of the good people of Leo--if I tried I'd inevitably forget many who deserve to be mentioned among the very good, smart, courteous people who participate here.
Nevertheless--for the purpose of illustrating my point--I will randomly name just six (three from each continent): Martin-cal and Norbert Juffa and Robert--US (in America), and mad and wienergriessler and mikefm* (in Europe).**
I have disagreed with each of the six--but never did I have hard feelings over those disagreements. None of these six people stoops to making personal (or snide) comments. None of these six has been ready to suggest that, if I am disagreeing with them, I must either have evil intentions or else be an imbecile. (They might in fact think me an imbecile, but they hide their feelings very well.)
Those six people are exemplary. (And, I want to emphasize, they are not alone. I've just identified them for purposes of illustrating what is possible.) They are what Leo's personality ought to be, IMO.
Disagreements? Yes, they are inevitable, and indeed invaluable. But if someone disagrees with me (speaking only for myself), I generally won't be angry unless the other person suggests that I am trying to subvert the English language if I happen to disagree with their own preferences.
Once personal (ad hominem) comments start, hell follows.
I'm in favor of vigorous debates and disagreements--until they become personal attacks or are otherwise unfair.
I am less magnanimous than are the six people I mentioned above. If someone attacks me, I usually answer back. (And that probably won't change.) But, in my defense, I don't think I engage in that sort of thing in the first instance--I don't initiate personal attacks. At least I hope I have not.
In short, my advice for a happier Leo is this: If someone disagrees with you, go ahead and explore the issue with them--but politely, and without making false, snide, inflammatory, or unfair claims and personal characterizations.
People should (PLEASE) realize that not everyone who disagrees with you has some evil intention. In my (approximately) three years of participation in Leo, I have never had any motive of trying to wreck the English language--though a few people have insinuated that that must be my motive. (I do--and will--respond to such an insinuation!)
*I'm afraid that mikefm (apparently) quit us several weeks ago--and I don't blame him. He was spoken to very roughly and unfairly. It's unfortunate (for us) because Mike is a good man to have around. I've missed seeing him here.
**Some people, like Advohannes and no me bre, fit in the special category of people with whom I think I have never had any real disagreement. Good people indeed.