#73 Braunbärin>> Ich finde es jedenfalls gerade schade, dass hier manche die Verzweiflung hinter dieser "Sturheit" des OP nicht sehen.
#76 manni>> Jeder lernt anders und ein guter Lehrer unterstützt einen darin, die hilfreichsten Methoden für sich zu entdecken und zu nutzen.
As frustrated as I have sometimes also been by Stony's method, I'm also ashamed to see that this thread has made Stony feel bullied, harassed, or singled out for criticism. (Auf deutsch: gemobbt.)
A lot of us have always found it easy and fun to read quickly and to learn words, phrases, and sentences naturally, even from early childhood. We probably have an extra talent for languages, a gift that not everyone has. That's why, to us, the forum can feel like a place of many kindred spirits.
Stony has made it clear that reading is sometimes hard for him or her, but that he or she wants to keep trying in his or her own way. We may never know why, and I agree it's unkind to keep asking or speculating if that gets too personal.
It seems to be difficult for Stony to recognize idioms, figures of speech, and other unexpected meanings of words. It also seems to be hard for Stony to recognize the right sense in a dictionary when there are many meanings to choose from. (Although I still think a good dictionary, bilingual or monolingual, would be much better than LEO, because dictionaries organize meanings in groups.)
We should indeed keep in mind that people can have problems and conditions that we don't see. Emotional or physical trauma, posttraumatic stress, brain injury, mild cognitive impairment, learning problems such as dyslexia, physical problems with eyes, ears, or muscles ... Anyone may be battling some kind of unseen demon. Those who grew up when many learning disabilities were not diagnosed may indeed have struggled for decades, without the specialized help from teachers that children can get today.
But it might also not be anything that serious, just a different learning style. A lot of people who have a gift for (written) languages and who do well in school at all levels are visual learners who can take in a whole sentence or paragraph at a glance, thus learning easily from context. Auditory learners find it it easier to learn by hearing and speaking, through conversation. Kinetic learners are hands-on learners, so they may do better if they can use their hands and gain mastery through repeated movements.
Stony's system could be like that last type, interacting with the text in methodical ways like underlining. Using a visual cue may help direct the eyes and also create anchors for remembering and repeating what is learned. If it seems to work for Stony most of the time, maybe that's simply okay.
It's hard for us to help in kinetic ways in the forum, and Stony's method may not help as much with new senses of a word. Sometimes the most we can do is to point out a new, non-literal meaning and give similar examples to help Stony learn it.
Here the word 'incoming' is tricky because it looks like a verb, but it's really an adjective used as a noun. Auf deutsch wäre das also so etwas wie 'Ankommendes' oder 'Anfliegendes.'
In the army, 'incoming' was jargon, short for 'incoming fire' (= Beschuss durch den Feind).related discussion: Incoming!
Later, it also became shorthand for incoming phone calls, e-mails, etc.
Hope that helps.