Well, I think I am going to have to say something here… The article looks pretty ridiculous to me: so many generalizations, so many hard and fast rules... And then what I call the "dumb" cherry on the "stupid" cake saved for the very end: Achtung: für Homosexuelle, Asiaten, Schwarze, Latinos, Juden... Gelten mitunter abweichende Regeln. And the question is: if you take Gays, Asians, Blacks, Hispanics, and Jews out of the picture, with how many New Yorkers are we left???? *lach* How clueless is the writer of this article?? And how can she equate NYC to America??? NYC is basically a different world. Plus: personality, upbringing, areas of the country, age, level of education, level of income, town vs. country, specific ethnic background, etc. These are all factors that the writer of the article completely ignores. What she says seems straight out "Sex and city" to me... What you see on TV may have some truth in it but it is nonetheless mostly MAKE BELIEVE. Of course there is a certain share of thirty something, superficial, main stream, "resume daters" and "players" out there, in the millions of bars and meat markets across the US, but to say that that is THE way Americans date, get married, etc. is a little ridiculous. I have dated a few women who fall into the category described by the writer, but as soon as I saw the first signs of "resume dating", I did not pursue the thing any further. I think that no matter where are in the world, at least in the western world (I am not familiar with any culture that is not western) it is not too difficult to see if the person you are dating is what you’re looking for, whatever that might be, or not. In a nutshell, as an American, I did not like the article and did not find it very accurate.
One last thing: how can anybody try and define love in any country or culture?? Love is a.Sex, b.Money, c.Friendship, d.having things in common, e.being opposites, f.be similar, g.sharing values, h.all of the above, i.some of the above.... ???
Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong! Nobody can define love. Love just is.