| Comment | To a certain extent, it depends on where you are. What qualifies as rude driving (or speech) in Michigan is not necessarily the same as rude in Iowa. I still haven't gotten used to the fact that in Michigan it is the merging driver's responsibility to get into traffic somehow. In Iowa the drivers on the interstate generally watch for cars trying to merge and, when possible, change lanes or adjust their speed (up or down) to allow the driver to merge safely. If I got upset and shouted "You idiot" every time a Michigan driver left me wedged at the edge of an on ramp with a semi driver on my rear bumper, I probably would have caused a few road rage incidents. Generally I just say "Thanks!"
If a driver cut me off in a dangerous maneuver, I would probably say something like, "He's in a real hurry!" or maybe in extreme circumstances (he almost caused an accident) under my breath "Jerk", though I wouldn't say anything loudly. You never know what someone outside the car might hear or how they might react to it. I can't think of a situation in which I would call anyone an idiot, and fool is pretty strong, too. April Fools' Day is different, because everyone is a fool and it is usually all in fun. For me to call a co-worker or a passerby a fool, though, implies that I am smarter or better than that person and I'm in a position to judge him or her. I might think, "You fool!", but I wouldn't say it.
The other comments are on target. I find the word "bitch" as rude as the behavior it supposedly describes, and I would never say it to anyone. As for getting someone to be quiet, you could try, "I think we've heard enough (out of you)", add the parenthetical phrase for a child. "Please be quiet for a minute, would you?" Or, "Could you please stop talking for a minute; I'm trying to think (do my homework, read)." The first is strongest.
As a general rule, I'd tend to keep my mouth shut. If in a moment of frustration you think something unkind, but don't say it, no one will get more upset and you can't regret it. If you go ahead and say the word, you may escalate an unpleasant situation, or people will think that you can't hold your tongue. Where I come from, holding one's tongue is generally considered to be a virtue. As my father always told us, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." |
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